April 15, 2013

.on marriage and true love and anniversaries.



Today marks two years of being married. Even though we aren't technically "newlyweds" any more, it still gives me a thrill when he kisses me and it still gives me a thrill when he says "you look pretty today."  It still makes my heart beat a little bit faster when he grabs my hand or winks at me across the room. I don't care how cheesy or "over said" it is, I adore my husband and I love him more now than ever. I hope those of you who are married can say that today (and every day) too.

A friend once told me (after reading our who we are posts) "there's no way your relationship is that perfect...no one is that compatible!" The truth is, we are far from perfect. Do we get along 98% of the time? I think so! But there are always those days where you snap when should have kept your mouth shut; and you complain when you should feel blessed.
When I was little, I never liked the saying "Marriage is work." I always wanted to imagine love/marriage like a fairy tale....so simple that a kiss could fix everything. And while a kiss does come close to fixing everything, marriage is work! But it can be fun work, if you let it be.

Here's what two years of marriage and being in love has taught me.




act silly together. this is huge. being able to relax and get your crazy on without fear of being embarrassed is gold.

take care of the other person when they're sick. this is also huge...because let's be honest, all anyone really wants to do in that situation is flee the house and the germs.

don't get upset at the little things. like hair in the sink or the toilet seat being left up or the fact that there's no hot water. it isn't worth it.

be servant-hearted. make dinner for the other person when they've have had a long day at work, empty the dishwasher for the other person, take the trash out (or in our case, outside, down two flights of stairs, and up the street).

do not compare your relationship to hollywood romances. no, your marriage might not be like those on tv or your best friends', but it is unique and one of a kind. find joy in that!

always kiss each other good morning...nothing says "i love you" like good morning kisses. (because anyone who can kiss someone with morning breath must really, really love them.)

go on drives. sing on the top of your lungs together. make up your own dance moves.

don't just be involved in your spouse's life, but take joy in it. even if they're in to something that doesn't interest you...it should bring joy to your life because it brings joy to theirs.

feel comfortable enough to say "hey, you've got something in your teeth" or "uuumm...cliffhanger!"...if not you, then who!?

leave the dishes in the sink. this is hard for me as an ocd maniac, but it's so important. it's okay to leave the cleaning for after you and your spouse time.

be humble! be the first one to admit you were wrong, selfish, or grumpy. it does wonders.

play games together...not only is it fun, but it also helps you learn to love your spouse even when they're kicking your tail.

be honest, in all it's forms. even when it's hard, even when it hurts. it is worth it.

leave notes on the bathroom mirror or send "i love you" texts....never, ever stop doing it.

most importantly, pray for your spouse. pray for your marriage. pray, pray, pray. only when your eyes are turned off yourself will you be able to be the wife/husband your spouse needs.

15 comments on ".on marriage and true love and anniversaries. "

  1. Julia, you're wise beyond your years when it comes to marriage and I believe God blessed your relationship from the very beginning so many years ago! Love seeing and reading about the love between you two... because the fact is, that marriage IS work and it's awesome to see young couples who know this and are ready to do it!

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    1. Aw, Nicole! That means so much! You are so sweet. :)

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  2. :) it's definitely the little things that matter!

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    1. Absofruitly...and having a good looking husband definitely helps, eh? ;)

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  3. YES YES YES to your "if not you, then who?" SO TRUE. :-) Made me smile.

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    1. hahaha you gotta have someone you can count on. ;)

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  4. Oh, this is wonderful. Congrats Julia! Now I am going to go kiss my man. hehe! :)

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  5. fantastic post. I agree, marriage is WONDERFUL, and we need more people to be saying that. It is work, but so are a lot of things in life that we love. happy anniversary!!!

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    1. It's true! In this society, marriage is a joke to most people. Makes me so sad!

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  6. These are so sweet! Love it! Congrats you two!

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  7. Happy anniversary! If you get along 98% of the time, that is a truly great marriage in my book :)

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  8. what a beautiful, honest, and fantastic list.
    thank you for sharing this! definitely pinned it to my "one day" board haha

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