February 18, 2014

being present, a guide.




one of my new year resolutions was to BE PRESENT. 
it's one of those things that is easy to keep saying and saying and not ever put into action. this year, i decided to stop saying it and start doing it. i evaluated my day to day activities and realized what needed to go (social media) and what i needed to do to actually make that happen.


so here you have it, my four tips on how to be more present.


one day i was scrolling through instagram and after about fifteen minutes i realized i wasn't even paying attention to three out of five pictures i scrolled through.
the same thing with twitter. i was only really reading/paying attention to about half of the accounts i actually followed. 
that's a lot of time to scroll through random tweets/pins/grams just to find the ones i actually care about. 
i decided to go through all my social media sites (instagram, twitter, pinterest, facebook, blogs) and get rid of all the people/sites that i wasn't really invested in or cared about.
you guys, i unfollowed a lot of useless accounts. sites/people i don't even remember following. 
and guess what! the less people i follow, the less time i need to "catch up."
(plus now it's a lot more enjoyable when i do get on!)

so, go through your social medias and cut out all the "extra" stuff.
you'll be surprised how much you'll be able to weed out.


after you've narrowed down your "must follows," it's time to turn down the noise.
i'm lookin' at you notifications.
it's pretty darn hard to ignore your phone and pay attention to the person sitting next to you when your phone keeps beeping or singing or vibrating or dancing a little jig every time great aunt so and so likes one of your pictures or taylor swift sends out a tweet.

turn 'em off, or at the very, very least mute them.
 you don't need to get notified every time someone "hearts" your picture.
(trust me, you really don't.)
this is a huge way to limit the amount of times you check your phone every day.

....do you hear that?
it's the sound of beautiful technology-less silence.

step three is to GET SOME SPACE, yo!
leave your phone in the other room or in your purse!
it's much easier to resist the temptation to log into facebook for the millionth time if your phone isn't sitting right by you. you'll be able to hear it ring if someone calls or texts (again...trust me.)
this step was huge for me. when i keep my phone out of my site, i check it a loooot less.
out of site, out of mind.


and lastly, a huge way to ignore the pull of the black hole that us social media is to go old school. 
write real letters. visit someone and talk to them face to face. send thank you notes. bake a cake (and then bring me some, please). go on walks. play a board game. 
the more you are present, the more you want to be present. 
and it's way, way more rewarding. :)



there you have it. four super simple ways to be more present and less bogged down by social media. 
have any other tips?? i can always use the help! 
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26 comments on "being present, a guide."

  1. Good reminders as this is something I had as a goal for 2014 too! I have found that setting specific times to be on my phone has helped and I honestly don't really think about it when I'm not supposed to. It's refreshing to break the habit of being chained to social media!

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    1. That's brilliant! I love having schedules and organzing my time so I think that would work really well for me. Have a specific time and then I won't feel guilty for when I am on it! Thanks, Kaylan!

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  2. Love this! And so excited I found your blog:) xoxox Katie

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    1. Yay! So glad you found me as well. :) Hope these tips help you!

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  3. #1 i NEED to do this - like really, REALLY need to do it. i'll probably clean up instagram and twitter today!
    #2 my phone makes ZERO noise for notifcations (other than a text or phone call) and the ONLY notifcations i have are twitter and instagram. pinterest and facebook became WAY too much!
    #3 yes! i had gotten used to leaving all elecronics in the den during the night...somehow i've gotten used to taking my phone and ipad with me back to the room...uh not good at all!
    #4 old school is most definitely cool! :)

    great, great post today. i definitely needed to read these!

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    1. Glad it helped you, Amy!! Hoping to spread the "being present" lifestyle. :)

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  4. I love love this. I deleted the instagram app off my phone sunday night and it has felt SO GOOD. Better than I even thought it would. That would be one of my tips- take breaks for social media when you start to feel too invested in it.

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    1. Wooah! Go you! Not sure I could actually delete the app (pathetic, I know!)

      I have to agree with you about taking breaks though. It's so important to take a step back and remind yourself where your focus should be!

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  5. I felt such a weight lifted when I just changed my notifications so that I had to check emails and social media myself instead of getting beeped at throughout the day! It was hard though..."what if it's important??" It isn't.

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    1. Yes! It makes such big difference!

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  6. Yes I totally agree with you for turning down the noise. My best tip and I use this with FB too- is I only let myself have a certain amount of time each day with it and that's it.

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    1. Yes! Kaylan said the same thing. Such a great idea! Can't believe I hadn't thought if that before!

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  7. Putting the phones away is definitely a really big one! All of these are such great tips girl :)
    xo TJ

    http://www.hislittlelady.com

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    1. Thanks, TJ! Glad they could help you as well! :)

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  8. This is such a great post! More and more lately I am noticing how much time I waste on social media. Of course, there are times when it's a great thing but you also have to know when it's just too much. I love your idea of going through your accounts and unfollowing those people you don't know or truly care about! I also like the tip about leaving your phone in another room. It's gotten to the point where we can't even go out with friends without being on our phones half of the time. I really try and make a point to keep my phone in my purse and to not pull it out until I am leaving or get back home.

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    1. Completely agree! There are definitely good things about social media too! I've gotten to know so many great people through blogging and pushed my photography skills with instagram...it's great. But there's definitely a balance there!

      Yes! I still find myself grabbing my phone to l"look something up real quick" ...still have to remind myself that it's really not important. Real conversations and interactions are way more important.

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  9. Love this. One of my resolutions as well which has resulted in less posting on all social media sites. I still spend a little time on Pinterest, but I'll chalk that up to wedding planning :) Hope you're doing well! xo

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    1. Oh you *have* to spend time on Pinterest when wedding planning! It's a must. :) Hope that the planning is going well!

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  10. This is such a great post. I especially agree with turning down the noise. I was researching why it seems that we can't not reach for or look at or jump through a flaming hoop the second our phone buzz. The theory on why we are so immediately drawn to this is because it's our natural survivor instinct. Before modern life and houses, we lived in a pretty survival centric state so we were constantly on high alert. If you didn't pay attention to the noise coming from your left you might have been eaten by a lion. Our phones are the new lion, we go to them immediately because we don't know what it is and our survival instincts tell us it might be a danger so be better check it out now.

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    1. That's so interesting! Thanks for sharing that, Alli! :)

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  11. These are all really great tips! It's so hard to unplug sometimes, especially when everyone expects to be able to reach you all the time, but I've learned that you have to set boundaries. You have to put your foot down and make sure people realize you're not going to spend all your free time glued to your phone. It's a tough balance!

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  12. oh yes, I love these. social media, even texts and emails, can be such a drag when you are just trying to live life with the people who are literally right beside you. lets make sure to give others a break when they don't reply right away :)

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    1. yes! it's okay to not respond right away and for other's to not text you back immediately! a test on our patience, yes...but definitely a needed one. haha

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