April 09, 2014

the post in which i rant

i have been thinking a lot about words and the power they have.
i've also been thinking a lot about the internet and blogs and the power they contain.

words are our most powerful weapon. they have the power to build people up. to make them feel larger than life and like they can conquer the world. words can make someone feel beautiful and special and loved.

or, if abused, they can hurt. they can haunt someone for their life. it can make someone feel worthless and stupid and no good.

that's a lot of power, guys.

what got me to thinking about all this was a website i stumbled upon. a website that was so full of hate and bitterness and selfishness and just downright meanness.
i'm not going to share the name of it because there's no point in going to it and fueling the fire.
i'm sure some of you have heard of it before, but basically it's a website where people go to tear down other people's blogs/websites. 
they list all the things they hate about certain blogs and the people responsible for them.
it was just so discouraging and heartbreaking.

the online community is a powerful one.
we share our dreams and our hopes and our failures and our fears.
to see someone taking those and reducing them to nothing by poking fun and laughing at them.
it just isn't right.
to disagree is one thing, but to make someone feel stupid and belittled because they share a different opinion, or hobby, or desires is another.

have we become so dulled by the anonymity of the internet and the lack of personal interaction, that we have somehow tricked ourselves into thinking that this is okay? 
we've deluded ourselves into thinking that we have the right to tear someone down, with a few clicks of our keyboard.
no. no. no.
this is not okay, people.
words hurt.
and not like a tiny sting either.
words can rip you wide open.

if you're taking that lightly, than you're doing something wrong.

we have an obligation to ourselves, and to others, to treat others like we want to be treated.
be kind. be encouraging. be thoughtful. be loving. be decent.
but if we can't manage that,

be silent.

i would like to encourage you guys to go out of your way to say something nice to someone today. it doesn't have to big or grand. sometimes it's the little things that make us feel the biggest.

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15 comments on "the post in which i rant"

  1. Oh girl, I definitely know what site you are talking about. Reading it is only bringing self destruction. Nothing good comes from it! All I can say is stay clear of reading anything they feel like making up and just be true to you. It's so easy to say something behind a computer screen. Those people don't know you. They don't even take the time to get to know you through your blog. One person says something and it sets fuel to a fire. You and your blog are just perfect, remember that :)
    xo TJ


    1. tj, you are the sweetest. :) and absolutely right, I just need to steer clear of that site!

  2. Thank you for saying this. I know the website you are talking about and the fact that a website like that even exists is just so sad to me. It's so encouraging to me that I have been able to find blogs and make friends with other bloggers (like yourself) who are kind and positive and encouraging. Keep doing what you're doing. You've created a beautiful little space here and I always love visiting. Once again, thanks so much for saying something that needs to be said :)

    1. it is so, so sad. i feel bad for the people writing on those sites too. they're the ones missing out on great friendships! i feel so blessed to have met such wonderful bloggers like yourself. it's just awesome!

  3. well said. i can't even imagine that people feel the need to say/post such awful things, much less an entire site?! i haven't seen it..which is juuust fine for my sensitive little heart ;) i just found your blog and its beautiful! you have a way with photos..

    1. thank you so much! that's very kind of you to say. :) i'm glad you stumbled upon my little site too! :)

  4. it's so, so true about words. and the whole internet bullying thing is pretty sad/messed up. you have a beautiful, honest and encouraging voice! and don't let anyone make you think otherwise :)

    1. I never realized how bad cyber bullying is. I mean, I knew it was out there, I just thought it was more rare. So sad.

  5. i agree 100%.
    while i have no idea what website you're referencing i'm not surprised - we really have become so dull to human emotion and the internet has become this "safe place" for people to tear each other down. it is so incredibly sad.
    thank you for writing this, people need to hear it.

    1. be thankful you don't know the site! after stumbling upon it and reading it for a little while i got so depressed! Kyle forbid me from going there anymore. Haha

  6. COMPLETELY agree. I'd never heard of "that site" until recently and I wish I hadn't at all because it's just so mean. The internet is such a scary place where sad people hide behind anonymity for fun. Everyone that puts content out on the internet is a human being...I hate hearing the excuse "well if you don't want hate then get off the internet, you asked for it by posting." NO. How about just click away if you don't like it? That website is really sad and cruel.

    1. AMEN! if you don't like it, then click away! how sad for them to be so full of hate that they miss out on so much good!

  7. Absolutely agree! I think I know this site you're talking about. Honestly I never fond of it. Have stumbled upon it once, and I just can't go back there. It's full of hatred and negativity. Definitely not my thing. And I can't really see what good that kind of site brings us.

    1. amen. no gold can come from it! if people stopped going to it, maybe it will dwindle away and die. :)

  8. It's things like this that bring me back to why I started blogging. I blog for me and noone else, if people like my stuff enough to follow then woohoo! but if they don't like it, that's okay but I'd rather not know/don't care.

    Words are so hurtful and some things should definitely be left unsaid. Remember why you blog and remember why you love it! That in itself is an encouraging thing