July 15, 2014

life goals; a how to



first off, i wanted to say thank you guys SO much for all the sweet comments on my last post. you guys sure do know how to make a girl feel special. :)

anyways...the other day i was thinking about whining to kyle about how i wanted to eat healthier and exercise more and be better about reading my bible and be a better wife and stop watching so much tv and so on and so forth. well, amongst my little breakdown, i remembered something my dad once said,

"you do what you want to do."

i know what you're thinking...duh, julia. i don't know why i hadn't thought about that before. i mean, if i actually want to eat healthier, exercise more, have a better relationship with god and the people around me, i will do it. once i had that mini revelation i got off my butt and started writing a list of things i wanted to change and how i could go about doing them.

i know to make permanent changes, it's going to take more than the desire to change. it's going to take a plan. (you know i love a good plan!) and baby steps. lots of baby steps. so here are a few ways i make goals that i'll actually get done. (most of the time anyways. :P)

be specific:
instead of saying "watch less television," it's better to say "only thirty minutes of television a day." see the difference? 

know yourself & be realistic:
the key here, is baby steps! if my first goal to get in shape is to run five miles a day...there's no way i'm going to make that goal! (now, that might work for some people...but i know myself and i know i'll get burned out like that.) and don't forget that tiny changes are like seeds. they'll grow into bigger and bigger changes.

write your goals down: 
if you put pen to paper, it helps solidify your goals. makes them more "real."

be forgiving:
guess what! you're gonna fail. there are going to be days you fall short of your goals. FORGIVE yourself. move on. wipe the slate clean and remember that tomorrow is a new day.

get some accountability:
talk to people. tell them your goals. it helps to have that accountability. knowing someone knows you're trying to better yourself will help you think twice before disregarding your goals. now i'm not saying there aren't some personal goals you can keep to yourself and achieve...by no means. if that's the case, maybe set an alarm to go off every day to remind you? 


...and there you have it. :) i'll be sharing my actual goals later one, after i'm done writing them out. :)
do you guys have any other tips or advice for setting and keeping goals?
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23 comments on "life goals; a how to"

  1. The words on this page. Are tiny. And I'm not even on my phone! #6 needs to be more specific haha.

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    1. sorry 'bout that! i noticed they do show up different sizes on different browsers. i'm in the process of redoing my site and will make the font larger!

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  2. Definitely love the tip to be more specific. It's too easy to let things slip through the cracks. Love this :)
    xo TJ

    http://www.hislittlelady.com

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    1. yes! yes it is! i *still* struggle with letting them fall through the cracks. :P

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  3. I love the idea of picking one thing to do before opening the computer..I find that I think i'll give myself "me time" after my work, and then by the late afternoon, i'm feeling too lazy to choose going for a walk over watching netflix. Adding a quick thing before diving into work is right up my ally. Thanks for the great idea xo

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    1. yes! it has helped me immensely! hope it helps you out too!

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  4. such a good idea. i definitely need to learn to be more specific, you gave awesome tips, thanks for sharing!
    -k
    www.kerryjune.com

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    1. thanks, kerry! i hope they helped you! :)

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  5. I am SO on to this- 'you do what you want to do'. Yes.

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    1. it really changed my life! i know that sounds dramatic, but it is so true!

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  6. This is a great idea!!! It is so helpful to have a list of things to do...but your "if you want to do this, then pick one of these" might work even better! :)

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    1. it has helped me a lot! i just had to share it. i hope it helps you too! :)

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  7. Wow. I can't tell you how much I needed to read this, Julia. I love your tips and will definitely try them out! I think it's just what I need. I especially love the part about being forgiving, because I too often, beat myself up. It's funny how we're often forgiving of others, but rarely ourselves!

    Thank you so sharing this. <3 <3

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    1. oh good! i'm glad they helped you too!!

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  8. This is an amazing idea!! I absolutely love this! I go to work everyday and stare at a computer, then I come home and open another computer to do blog work. I think doing something beforehand is a wonderful idea! I usually go to the gym after work, so I would have to add another thing on after that, like reading a chapter of a book or calling someone!
    ~Sara
    Sincerely, Sara

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    1. it is SO easy to lose track of time on the computer. especially if it's for your blog or work! and before you know it, you've spent the whole day staring at a screen.i'm very guilty of this! i hope these tips have helped you!

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  9. I love that dad advice! So true. I feel like I'm always one to complain about wanting to do more or less of this and that but I never just do it. I am DEFINITELY one to reach too far in my goals, I'm horrible at taking baby steps and like you said I just get burned out. I need to make lists/write things down too...I just try to remember them and then they just fizzle out.

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    1. it was such simple advice, and yet it changed the way i look at my life. i can do anything...i just have to get up and DO it.

      YES. make lists! it makes a huuuge difference. (to me at least :P)

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  10. great. great. great list!
    I need to get better about making specific goals instead of just overall goals (like you were saying with the tv).
    this was definitely a good encouragement!

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    1. thanks, amy! i'm glad it was an encouragement to you! :)

      yeah, it makes a huge difference when i actually make specific goals vs generic ones. they seem more achievable

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  11. Good for you! I'm always telling myself that I need to read my Bible more or that I want to accomplish certain goals and I never end up making that happen. Like you said, having a plan is very important. If I don't lay out steps for myself things will never get done.

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    1. for me, a plan is essential. i accomplish so much more when i have a plan!

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  12. I read about your blog in Somerset Studio's - Artful Blogging - Volume 9 - Issue 2, May/June/July 2015. Super Cool! Great blog!!! Take care and God bless you and your family!

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